I see many people in my practice who converge around the same problem: they do not recognise themselves and find no comfort in their current lifestyle.

Although many of them already have a consolidated identity, are good professionals, dedicated to their families, considerate with their friends and socially committed, when they find themselves alone the emptiness is unbearable. The unease returns with existential questions that find no answer.

These people are usually always busy, often unwittingly and at other times consciously, but always doing something so as not to have to reach that inner conversation. Some of the people I see in my practice have leaned towards one of the extremes (obsession with the body, with work, materialism, consumerism, radicalism, addictions; the list is long), but they live with enormous intensity. Others have moved to the opposite extreme, where their mood worsens into an anxious-depressive state, closed in on themselves.

Nowadays, to investigate any problem, all we have to do is go online. In the search for an answer to that unease, it is common to come across other models of life or experiences, incredible lives, the guru who has the universal recipe for our problem, a friend’s example. We think that by emulating other people’s lives, with that same recipe, we would improve our own, without realising that this is their path and not ours.

When my clients and I enter the process of hypnotic regression, looking for that emotional imprint we have left in the past and that affects us in living our present life, the conclusion to that unease is very often the same: “Slow down, live your life, you have your own path. Live, YOU, live your own life.”